A Pop Life

I don’t know if it’s just because we are closer to 30 years old, live far apart, experienced different things, or simply decided to end things that should have ended earlier because of long standing grudges.

Am I talking about the ending of a marriage? No, I am talking about the ending of a long term friendship with a formerly close female best friend. I didn’t so much end mine as simply went out for smokes, never came back, and started a new family in the next state. It was long overdue, I won’t go into details but we had drifted apart. I had met new people, wanted to experience new things, but all of those could have been forgiven. The final breaking point was her choice in a husband. I tried but failed at standing by as she self destructed in an awful soul sucking relationship. I tried to offer ways to improve the situation but it was not to be. I just let things naturally die.

The worst thing I hate is when women let their female friendships wither away because of a man. Don’t get me wrong, I am a happily married woman but I still make time for my female friends. Just this past December, I went down to visit one in Galveston, Tx. That is about 5 hrs away from me. Me and my best friend went down to visit the other part of our Holy Trinity. It was an awesome and soul replenishing trip.

But just because you get a man does NOT mean you should be all about him. Time apart is a GOOD thing. I can’t tell you how many relationships I saw in college fall apart because they were attached at the hip. You should have lives apart from each other, don’t loose yourself in the relationship. You’ll regret the day when you open your eyes and realize that you don’t know who you are. Your female friendships should carry you through rough patches of life, throw you bridal showers, baby showers, and share in your menopause. Your husband doesn’t want to share your PMS pain or your bitching about how heavy your period is.

Nothing irritates me more than women who are so willing to throw away friendships for the sake of a man. If the man is TRULY a man, he’d welcome your friendships, tell you to nurture them, and encourage you to spend time with them. Besides, nothing is sweeter than being apart then coming home to him. It’s such a rush. It reinvigorates the relationship.

Women, have you ever gone through a friendship divorce?

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